Well happy Tuesday to everyone! We just returned from a few days up on the
northern California coast and
everything is well. As most of you know,
we had the immense pleasure of visiting with our kids from Oklahoma
over the last two weeks. We first spent
time at our place with our second son Jeremy and then enjoyed a couple of days
with our youngest daughter JoAnna and her husband Jeremiah. Following this we drove up the curvy coast to
the Sea Ranch development where my older son and his family along with
Piper’s relatives had rented a house for the week.
My wife and I actually only stayed a couple of days and
booked a room at the newly renovated Sea Ranch Lodge. Although we had stayed at the Lodge on many
occasions over the years (including the
first couple of nights of our honeymoon!), this was the first time we had
been there in over ten years. I fought
with the idea of getting the room for a few weeks. The original plan was to drive up for a day
visit and then return home in the early evening hours. A heart to heart discussion with my sons
convinced me though, that the overnight stay would be worth all the effort… and they
were right!
Many things concerned me about the stay at the Lodge. Being as routine is so important with the
health issue that my wife is dealing with, I was a little anxious as to how my
wife would do in a new place, how she would eat, if she would sleep okay, how
would she respond to all the different people we would see, how we would take
care of all her personal needs, and on and on.
I think I ended up packing just about everything except the kitchen
sink!
It may sound kind of insignificant, but I think the toughest
issue for me was on the emotional side.
You see, the coast was always the place where my wife and I went for our
quiet, romantic getaways in the past.
This time would be different. The
hardest part in dealing with my wife’s health difficulties for me has been the
loss of intimacy that was always a strong and vital part of our
relationship. I’m not necessarily
talking about the physical intimacy, but more importantly, the intimacy of our
communication together. We have always
been extremely close. Since we had met
we could always talk for hours on end, and we have always been able to be
totally honest and upfront with each other.
Sometimes we didn’t even have to say a word to be able to share our thoughts
and or needs with each other. She has
always been there for me, and I believe, me for her. I cannot think of a day that has gone by
where we did not express our love for one another. All those two or three day mini vacations together on the
coast through the years, were like icing on the cake of our life together.
Well, I have to admit, that although it was different in
many ways, our time alone at the Lodge this weekend was wonderful. I think that Piper actually remembered being
there before. When we walked in to
register she brightened up like a light!
Although she was pretty quiet the whole weekend, she smiled a lot and
looked very contented. She was even able
to walk out on the bluffs that look over the beautiful Pacific Ocean
just a few yards from our room. We took
some of the same pictures that we captured 37 years ago this month, and I
shared many memories of our honeymoon stay with her throughout our current visit. As we walked into the Lodge restaurant for
breakfast, I whispered to her how I vividly recalled walking into that same
room the first night of our arrival for our honeymoon dinner.
My wife was wearing a short dress outfit that night and a
beautiful large hat. I felt like every
eye in the crowded room turned toward her as we walked through to our table
next to the window. I think that I knew
what it must feel like to be in heaven that night! This Saturday morning also turned out to be
pretty special. While every eye in the
place may not have turned to us, I was just as proud to be walking in with my
beautiful wife. She actually enjoyed a
nice breakfast and we had a good time watching the waves, the birds and all the
other scenes unique to the coastal community.
We also had a memorable time with the rest of her family when
we gathered at their place together, but I’ll share a little bit on that aspect
of our stay tomorrow. The interesting
thing was the peace and calm that both of us felt when we left and returned
home. Yesterday was a very relaxing
day. After saying good bye to JoAnna and
Jeremiah who left for the airport in the wee hours of the morning, I returned
to bed and slept in to almost 9:30 ! Now, you have to understand how unusual that
is for me. I haven’t slept in that late,
that peaceably for literally years! Then
later in the day my wife and I took a two hour nap!
The best part of the day and the event that totally
highlighted our entire mini-vacation for me happened when my wife and I went to
bed last night. My wife had walked into
the bedroom before me and sat down on the bed.
When I came in she looked up at me and said “You know what?” Now once
again, you have to understand the significance of this event. My wife hasn’t spoken a complete sentence in
months! So I quickly stopped what I was
doing and sat down on my knees in front of her and said “What?” She then looked me
right in the eyes and said “I love you!”
Wow! In that instant
I turned into jelly! That little bit of
communication totally revitalized my expectations of God’s faithfulness to us
who commit ourselves to and believe in Him and His word. How about you today? How strong are your expectations toward
Him. Remember Hebrews 11:1 says that “Faith assures us of things we expect…”
(God’s Word ©) Maybe today is a good time for you to get
your expectations revitalized in Him.
Take the test. Go ahead and ask
yourself: “What am I expecting today?” And then closely examine your answers. Be blessed and have a great day!