I normally have two or three reading projects going on at
the same time. Right now I actually have
four or five, if you count my daily time in the Bible! Currently I am following a specific
commentary as I study the Word each morning.
Then I have the book on healing that Piper and I are reading together
after breakfast and lunch. Before we get
up from the couch in the evening we watch a Christian minister teach on one of
the Christian TV channels. From there we
head to bed and I read our confessions to Piper. Once she is off to sleepland, I enjoy winding
down for about half an hour by reading a fun, adventure book following in the
genre of Clive Cussler. And just before
turning off the lights for the night I like to conclude my day by reading from
another Christian teaching book, with the current title covering the subject of
God’s grace.
I find it really interesting and exciting when all those
various inputs converge on the same subject, as is happening right now (… although, not so much the adventure
book)! And that subject is God’s
grace. This morning’s Bible study
focused on the father’s/parents actions of grace in the upbringing of their
children. I was telling my wife at
breakfast that the verse that really jumped out at me was Colossians 3:21 where
Paul tells the fathers (or ‘parents’ as
the word can be translated either way): “don’t
make your children resentful, or they will become discouraged.” (God’s Word
©)
Having spent the majority of my ministry years involved
in Student Ministries, I think that was one of the most common situations that
we dealt with! That is one reason we
always liked to have Parent of Youth groups, parent and youth activities, as
well as Family Fun Nights. These events
gave us an opportunity to be involved with the parents of our students as well
as the parents with the other parents.
They set up numerous opportunities for learning through teaching,
experience and just watching how others interacted with their children.
I realized a few years back that as our own children
transitioned into adulthood, that Piper’s and my input into their lives was
also in transition. I have become aware
that our approach to our kids has transformed into an attitude of grace, prayer
and encouragement. A good example was
our stay in Oklahoma. That three year
period was one of the greatest times in my life… but it was also one of the most difficult from many different fronts!
It was great as it seemed like we were living in heaven
upon the earth. Bible school was
fantastic! So excellent in the depth of teaching
that I could not get enough of it and a church fellowship that seemed to only
get better and excel at all that they/we did!
But then there were the other experiences. First was my time limitations as I was going
to school full time and working full time… and
caring for a few yards on the side! Then there was all the strange things that
were beginning to come into focus with my wife’s health, followed by all the
tests and facing the scary results that no one – at that time – seemed to be able to get their hands on.
Along with all this during the first year, was the trauma
of helping both of our kids that came with us through many difficult times as a
result of the move. I have to give God
all the glory because at the early onset of His clear directive to me to move
and attend school (over a year and a half
previously to our trek across the country), He assured me that it would
turn out better for our kids than they had ever known before… and it did!
Then there were our finances! We had a plan to take care of this part of
the equation before we left and it seemed to be working great… for the first month or so! As it turned out, both our son and my wife
had difficulty in securing jobs, and when my wife finally did, she was let go
after three months due to her having difficulties remembering directions (which we didn’t understand fully until we
got back to California and the diagnosis of her health needs). Then we suddenly had a past debt (that I actually thought had been taken care
of a few years previous to this time) pop up with large forced monthly
payments. I had been pre-warned by
others who had followed the Lord’s leading to attend Bible College previous to
us, but I honestly thought I had all the bases covered!
As I look back now, it is clear to me that it was God’s
grace, lots of prayer and faith in His Word in the provisions that Jesus has
provided us through His finished work of the cross that got us through! Romans 5:1-2 confirms this revelation as it
declares that “Christ, by whom also we
have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand…” (KJV)
I spent many sleepless nights in the midst of everything
that was going on back then in prayer over our my wife, our kids and our needs,
while I physically approached every one of them each day with an attitude and
approach of grace… not criticism,
complaining or guilt. I wish I could
have taken my wife to more of the activities at the church during that time,
but to be honest, I was just too pooped!
I am so thankful that our younger daughter was able to accompany her to
many seminars and other events.
I believe that a positive and encouraging attitude and
approach of grace is what prevents our children from becoming discouraged… and especially our adult children. I love to hear of our kid’s dreams and visions
for their families futures and I love to encourage them to be free to pray over
them and step out in faith when the time is right to pursue them. According to Romans 5:2 we have a firm
standing in God’s grace and thereby have access through this unmerited and
undeserved favor of God, by faith, to
all the provisions that Jesus has already provided for us through His death,
burial, resurrection and assumption to the highest position in heaven, at the
right hand of Papa God!
That is the kind of Good News that I want to proclaim to
my family… How about you? Have a great weekend and as you do, keep
asking yourself… “How am I expecting to
encourage my family within my standing in God’s grace today?”
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