*Clin-i-cal:
efficient and unemotional, coldly detached.
synonyms: detached, impersonal,
dispassionate, uninvolved, indifferent,
As I was studying from Colossians chapter two yesterday I
suddenly thought of the word “Clinical”
in context to Paul’s praying that his readers were “knit together in love.” (Colossians 2:2 KJV) I realized that he was talking about the
close and personal relationship the members of the churches he was addressing
had and not a distant, sort of “Clinical”
collaboration. That thought gave me some
instant answers to the frustrations I have experienced in my interactions with
some individuals and also brought home the question of the type of relationship
I have with Papa God.
Do I enjoy and participate in a close and intimate
relationship with Him, or is it strictly on a clinical level? Well, if you’ve been following this blog you
know that I have answered that question, as I have always strived to attain the
same close and personal relationship with the Father as my wife seems to have
always enjoyed since the first day I met her.
I was talking to her this morning and was explaining that
it just seemed like we opened up our hearts to each from the very beginning of
our relationship. At times I get a bit confused
when I see couples hiding things from each other, or having a difficult time
expressing their inner most thoughts and feelings to each other. To not be completely open and honest with
each other would be very foreign to Piper and I.
That is the way I always ran the ministry programs I was
involved with in the church and was an integral part of my management style in
the secular positions I held through the years.
My first goal in any situation was always to build a personal
relationship with my team be they adults, leaders, youth or kids! I am simply more comfortable to operate from
a heart knowledge of those I interact with than from a dispassionate and/or
distant position.
Over the years I have also learned that operating from a
heart knowledge position can backfire and open you up to some hurtful
times. It seems that while this approach
can help you to minister in a more sincere and I believe a more helpful manner,
it also can expose some of the more tender and intimate areas of your inner soul! There have been a few times in my past in
both the church and secular jobs I’ve had, when people I reached out to and
trusted, turned on me and injured some of the more tender places within
me. As I’ve mentioned before, some of
the most hurtful events have occurred within the recent interactions with
individuals concerning the attack on my wife’s health.
I have always been a very hands on person. When I get involved with something, I like to
get in and get dirty (sort to speak!) I enjoy lots of personal and open contact and
interaction with everyone involved. I
find it very difficult to keep relationships with friends and family at a
clinical level, but I learned the hard way that this is exactly what I have
needed to do with some folks in order to protect my wife and I as we have been
on the roller-coaster ride of emotions, tough decisions and radical lifestyle
changes, while staying focused and in
faith with the results promised us in the Word of God.
I can see that for some individuals, the clinical
approach is a protection mechanism and a way to deal with their own emotions
and hurts that they must someday face.
What I don’t like is the way it closes them off from being a loving and
helpful part of the lives of the loved ones around them.
As I get older I am coming to realize that I want to be
an open book and a strong and joyful blessing to those around me. I don’t want to leave this world in a bitter,
dispassionate manner that steals the joy from those I love. I have seen too much of that with friends in
the church, neighbors, acquaintances and even some close family members who
have passed before me.
This thought really hit home these last few weeks as I
tweaked my back helping my wife one morning and have repeatedly found myself
whining about it! But once again, I am
thankful that even though she has been increasingly less responsive to me, my
lovely wife still speaks to my heart as I clearly hear her words of
encouragement that challenge me to stop feeling sorry for myself and rejoice in
the goodness of the Lord and be thankful for the opportunities I have to be a joyful and strong
assistant and example of God’s love to her!
What
do you think about all that? What level of relationship do you have with
those around you… or with God. Is it at a personal, intimate level or clinically dispassionate, impersonal
and distant… or somewhere in-between? Maybe it is time to take down the walls, take
a leap of faith and jump in with your whole self! I’ve discovered that when I am able to let go
and give my all that Papa God is then enabled to give of Himself and His
kingdom blessing to me without reserve!
Have a great rest of the week, and as you do keep asking yourself… “What type of relationship with God and man
am I expecting to walk in today?”
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